Updated: Jun 25, 2020
All public figures, especially those in professions like wrestling where large numbers of children and young people are idolizing a character/person, have a responsibility to use their platform to promote equal rights, acceptance and kindness. At a bare minimum, they should not actually condone acts such as sexual abuse, hate, or discrimination.
I'm happy that so many of these cases are finally coming to light, although as a woman, I'm genuinely shocked at how shocked everyone is to hear it. I'd argue that on any given Friday night at college campuses and parties with teens, these incidents are happening far more than anyone wants to acknowledge. Perhaps I was hanging around all the wrong people, but I know for a fact that all of my friends have a story of their own, or have a friend with a similar story.
I generally wouldn’t comment on a specific case of sexual abuse allegations, but since Marty went ahead and posted to the world that he did it, refuses to apologize, is defending his actions and as of June 24 hasn’t even thought to delete the Tweet and APOLOGIZE, I’m going to go ahead and comment.
So, let’s read what Marty had to say! Spoiler alert: he did not use his platform to promote equal rights, acceptance, or kindness.
I am aware that a young woman has bravely come forward with her account of sexual abuse by some members of the wrestling community in the UK 5 years ago, a community I was a part of.
I see he posted this from his iPhone, so I’m guessing he just typed it up sitting in his chair and then shared it with billions of people without running it by anyone first, because it sure reads that way. I think he thinks he’s saying something nice by calling her brave, but it’s reading more condescending than anything. I’m going to go ahead and translate “some members” to Marty Scurll and mention that it’s pretty damning to his more dignified colleagues that he’s trying to deflect his behavior onto the entire wrestling community. Way to throw your industry under the bus and associate wrestlers who use their platform to build people up with your sexual abuse allegations.
Although I truly believe that our encounter that evening was consensual,
Let’s start with what Marty doesn’t say (aside from apologizing), which is the fact that he doesn’t even acknowledge that she says she was drunk. He has brazenly defended the “encounter” with a 16 year old, so he doesn’t seem to be afraid of airing his dirty laundry. I guess he thinks if he doesn’t mention the drinking, it doesn’t exist. This has narcissist written all over it. It’s so pathetic that women (and men) continue to be discredited when making sexual abuse allegations, especially when alcohol is involved. Sure, drinking to excess is irresponsible, but drinking doesn’t mean someone is signing over their basic human rights.
Being drunk isn’t the issue, the predatory behavior is the issue. Imagine if every time you drank in college, at a wedding, or a party, the expectation was that you gave up all rights to your body. Using that logic, are you giving up all your other rights upon drinking? Are you saying that people are entitled to drunk slaves? Are you suddenly responsible for quartering soldiers at your house during every Friday night of drinking? And at what point would your rights suddenly disappear? 1 drink, 5 drinks? Do you see where I’m going?
and the fact that the encounter was legal; is almost not the point. I understand that she now views our encounter as part of a bigger problem within the wrestling community.
He’s telling everyone that it was his right to do this. This is the message he is sending to fans. There are young men and women reading what he has said, watching him discredit claims of sexual abuse. And if we just completely ignore the drinking factor, let’s not forget that she was 16, a high schooler. But he is right on one thing, the point really isn’t about being 16 or not being 16, the point is that she views the encounter as sexual abuse BY YOU. And I’d be willing to bet my savings that she viewed your encounter as abuse much prior to “now.”
What concerns me at this moment is that from what I have been reading, she is a fan of wrestling and was made to feel unsafe within that community. This is not acceptable. I also understand that people have been attacking her on social media, and I implore you to please stop. She has a right to her voice and it is our responsibility to listen.
I’m just going to state the obvious that sexual abuse and feeling unsafe are two totally different things, and sexual abuse is not acceptable. Instead of using this as an opportunity to use his platform to condemn sexual abuse, or advocate for the rights of victims, Marty Scurll is defending himself. He’s ignoring the most important and serious claims.
Whether public figures and people in positions of power acknowledge, it or not, they are held to a moral standard. They have an obligation not to abuse their positions of power to take advantage of others, and we have an obligation to hold them to those standards. I hope anyone reading this takes a minute to step back and think of how you can support those whose voices have been silenced, minimized or discredited in this world.